"If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach and it will be given to him." James 1:5
The Hebrew root word translated as "wise" or "wisdom" occurs more than 300 times in the Old Testament. And in the Greek New Testament, wisdom is found more than 60 times. It is a word that implies having special knowledge and sound judgment.
A wise carpenter knows his trade well and makes good decisions. A wise couple knows marriage well and works together on important decisions such as financial management and child rearing. In the American Heritage Dictionary, wisdom is "a common sense understanding of what is true, right and lasting."
Marriage comes with a built-in reality check. We ask questions of our spouse like, "Did I handle that situation with kindness?" or "Was my attitude in the right place when talking with this person?" or maybe, "Do you realize how much you worry about that?" Questions and comments like these emerge naturally in a healthy marriage, and they can be a source for personal growth and wisdom. I have asked Dana his thoughts many times over the years (and him the same) when we question different aspects of our married life as well as us as individuals. I think it's healthy to check in with one another to reset a guidepost on how we are doing as individuals, parents and as a couple. Maybe that's what Solomon meant by a discerning heart. Instead of asking God for riches and honor, he asked for wisdom.
"So give your servant a discerning heart to govern your people and to distinguish between right and wrong. For who is able to govern this great people of yours?"
(1 Kings 3:9)
That is probably not a bad idea for married couples. When was the last time you asked God for wisdom in your marriage?
The Lord was pleased with Solomon's request and because he did not ask for long life or wealth or death of his enemies, but for discernment, God gave him what he asked for and more. The Lord went on to add riches and honor and a title to be the King like no other. God also provided a promise to Solomon, if he would walk in His ways, keep His statutes and commandments, Solomon would live a long life. (1 Kings 3:9-14)
What honor and glory and praise we would bring to our heavenly Father with a rich, healthy, wisdom filled marriage. The goodness and love that comes from our union is a reflection of all that God has done for us and through us. Let's pray for wisdom and discernment in this life we live; our marriage will reap the benefits.
"Happy is the man who finds wisdom, and the man who gains understanding." (Prov. 3:13)
I love you & He loves you more!
Lord, I ask for wisdom as I walk through my marriage. May I be filled with a discernment in my heart that Solomon received so that Dana and I may live a long and happily ever after. Thank You for blessing us this far and I look forward with hope at the beautiful years to come. In Jesus' name. Amen.