A Love That Lasts
Updated: May 28
"Love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire, like a mighty flame. Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot sweep it away." Song of Songs 8:6-7
"God's design for perpetuating the human race is nothing short of a miracle. It's a man and woman who commit to each other for life, work side by side, and sacrifice for each other. Such is the building block of healthy families, neighborhoods, communities, and countries." -Jay Payleitner, Author
As a wife I wanted to share with you some things I have learned over the years that our husbands need from us. (Maybe this is for you or maybe it is to be a reminder for me.)
Now if you are a male reader of this...show this to your wife. You're welcome.
"A husband and wife are driving down a country road. They're a few years older than you are now. He's behind the wheel. The pavement and cornfields are passing by. She breaks the silence with a sigh and says, "Remember when we were younger and we used to sit right next to each other in the car?" "I remember," the husband replies after a moment, "but you know, I haven't moved."
This is a story way before seat-belt laws and bucket seats were a thing, but the thought still carries a ton of truth. Men travel down the road of life with a sense of purpose and focus. They work to bring home a paycheck and be a good father. You will not find the good ones in bars, drinking every night; an affair is the last thing on his mind and divorce is not an option.
Sometimes on the road of life we both might get preoccupied with building a future that we forget who we're building it with. We get distracted by our careers; our ministries; our children's wants and needs; and so much more that we forget to look across the seat at one another.
One of our husband's deepest needs on this journey of life, whether he will admit it or not, is for us to stop what we're busy doing once in awhile and look at him and tell him what a good job he's doing. That he is appreciated. That you look up to him and need him.
You might be thinking, "Where did that boy go that I fell in love with?" Well, he's right there, sharing your home with you, probably wondering the same thing about where that girl has gone.
Be the girl. Be the boy. Expect no less than to make each other's hopes and dreams come true. It's a win for both of you.
I love you & He loves you more!
Lord, Bless our marriage as we seek to please You in pleasing each other. May we embrace each other more with our words and deeds and remember why we fell in love. I pray for my marriage that it will be a light of strength and courage and that we will always stay the course You have set us on. In Jesus' name. Amen.